If they said they’re not mad…believe them

If you ever get stuck in a loop thinking that someone is mad at you even if they have said that they are not…

This is a common experience for people-pleasers.

It can be so hard to turn off the worry-thoughts that we have done or said something "wrong," hurt someone, or annoyed them.

And while many folks know deeply that they would like to stop this kind of worrying, it can be really hard to do without support.

But change is possible.

When you heal this anxiety and redirect it’s energy you:

🌱 Learn skills to increase your distress tolerance.

🌱 Practice trusting the other person and yourself.

🌱 Hold stronger internal boundaries.

🌱 Build confidence in your ability to navigate conflict even if its not expected.

🌱 Practice replacement affirmations that build self esteem and self worth.

As I always say, if this is a pattern for you, we can trust that you developed it for a good reason. It was likely necessary at some point to work really hard to predict if someone was mad at you when they weren't expressing it clearly in the moment.

We can honor your inherent strength while we work to build new patterns that support your growth.

(Sidenote: this is big work in healing patterns of codependency— email me if you’d like me to write more on this topic.)

So, what’s one thing you can do this week to expand your awareness of when you are worrying that someone is mad at you unnecessarily?

Want support with this or other things that are stressing you out?

Schedule that Initial Consultation with me to get started.

All my best,
Dr. Rebecca Cohen